It's Masturbation May, and I think it's important to note that jacking off does so much more for us than to allow us to feel pleasure in the moment. It actually makes our sex lives better!
1. Being comfortable in your own skin
The more time you spend naked and appreciating your body (rather than judging it) and the powerful sensations that you can produce by touching yourself, the more comfortable you become in your own skin. The more you love your own body, the more comfortable you’re likely to be with it in front of other people.
You can learn new things about your body and what you like through touching different body parts in different ways. I never knew that I loved nipple stimulation so much until I started doing it while wanking because my partners never paid that much attention to my nipples.
You can’t tell someone what you like if you don’t know what you like. Masturbation aids in sexual communication because it helps you figure out what feels good for your body and what doesn’t. As everyone’s body is really different, what feels good to you is likely different than what felt good for your partner’s last partner. However, your partner won’t know that unless you do and can tell them.
4. More masturbation - more sex!
How, you ask? A recent study found that women who get more sleep are more likely to have more (and better) sex. Masturbation relieves stress because it releases dopamine and endorphins; less stress leads to better sleep. Moreover, masturbation can function as a way to get into your body and out of your head -- something else that relieves stress.
5. Practice and experimentation
Want to work on making more (or less) noise while fucking? Do it while masturbating first! Want to work on g-spot stimulation? Practice with your fingers! Want to see if you can reach climax through nipple play? Experiment with anal play? Practice various positions? These are all things you can do on your own first to build confidence and figure out how your body works before trying them with a partner -- or things you already know you enjoy and just want to do more of / fine-tune.
I'd actually go one step further than this to say that masturbation makes our relationships better -- and not just our romantic or sexual relationships, but all of our relationships. I'm not a scientist, so this is purely theoretical; my hypothesis goes something like this:
Wanking - stress and pain relief / feelings of euphoria - relaxed mood - easier to be around and nicer to others. When we are in a good mood, we tend to be much more empathetic and generous.
I'd also hypothesize that feeling responsible for your own pleasure and being able to depend on yourself for sexual pleasure rather than feeling dependent on another person is connected to a more secure attachment style!
Now get to wanking!